I finished my final for my graduate accounting class today so my first semester there is over. I hope I did well. Relations with my accounting professor ended well, at least I hope it did. There were awkward moments when my "INTJ vibe" leaked through and he was unnerved by it. Though I had to fake some of it, forcing myself to be more happy and smiling around him managed to fix it. He even requested that I do a presentation and I wasn't nervous about doing that either. Hopefully I left a good impression.
Though it was a boring semester and I dreaded being forced to interact with my professor more than I wanted to, I did learn one thing though. Apparently people don't like it when I say "oh okay". Apparently, they think I'm interrupting them and trying to end the conversation or something. I realized this a while back, but I thought it was a few people who misinterpret it, but I guess a large amount people do. I guess I should change it.
I feel that "Oh, okay" can be interpreted as curt and dismissive, especially if you use a short and low tone. I've had a similar experience using "Yeah," while listening and responding to people. I wondered why they would suddenly stop talking when I said it, and realized that it's because they thought "Yeah" meant "Yeah, I get it, you can stop now." when in fact, I meant to affirm whatever they were saying, like "Yeah, I totally get what you're saying. Go on." I still use the yeahs, but if the person suddenly stops, then I just ask them to continue.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure your professor thought you were great and wasn't unnerved by your INTJ vibe. Maybe stunned by your intellect, eloquence, or something. See, it can go either way.
Haha, I'm quite certain he wasn't stunned by my intellect. He was standing there, frozen, looking at me out of the corner of his eyes. I'm pretty sure that was fear.
DeleteYeah, I realized that "oh, okay" could be misinterpreted by the person I'm talking to, but I never thought so many people would do so. Strangely, I never had this problem before I went to college.